Wednesday, 4 December 2013

All in All

It's time for the last Insecure Writer's Support Group post of the year so I decided to look back on my insecurities over the last twelve months.

Being made redundant was a cause for both optimism and concern. At last I had the chance to write almost full time - but would I be any more succesful than I had previously?

When I got acceptances, or the writing was going well, I felt quite confident. When I'd had nothing but rejects for months I was insecure.

I'm starting to feel that, on average, I might not be any more insecure than most other writers. What do you think - are we all a mixture of gloom and cheer?

(If you came looking for free to enter writing competitions you'll find several on the last two posts and there are more to come on Friday and Sunday)

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  1. If we weren't able to accept the knocks as well as the yippee times we would need to be in another career I reckon, Patsy. I always think the lows times make the highs all the sweeter.

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  2. Hi Patsy!
    All in all I think we'd have to be inhuman not to have self-doubt occasionally. And those successes certainly do feel good, don't they! In fact, they feel even better than good because we experience those dry patches that make us crave a little affirmation. I've always admired writers who write only for themselves and don't try for a larger audience. But I've never been one of them. I like it when people read and enjoy my words!
    December IWSG co-host
    http://swaggerwriters.blogspot.com/

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    1. Like you I want other people to read and enjoy my stories, Kim.

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  3. Every writer I know is insecure. I'm pretty sure it goes with the territory. :)

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    1. I suspect you're right that we all have insecurities, Linda - at least some of the time.

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  4. The journey is a roller coaster, so we all go through those highs and lows. You sound like you are on track to me!

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    1. I hope I am, Alex - even if it sometimes feels like a white knuckle ride.

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  5. Most defitnitely! I have days of feeling soooo positive but then I have days when I can barely write my name!!

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    1. Me too, Pat. It's harder for me though as mine is two letters longer ;-)

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  6. I've heard of big name writers feeling insecure. I think all you can do is try to make it work for you.

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    1. I have too, Sheila. There are writers it seems impossible to imagine feeling insecure yet apparently they do. But thinking about it, I'm probably not much less insecure now than I was before I got anything published so I can sort of understand it.

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  7. From what I can tell, it's pretty normal to have some pretty major ups and downs. Hopefully the ups outweigh the downs, though! :)

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  8. Oh, we are definitely a mixture of good and gloom. We are only insecure when we hit low spots in our writing. But when we have success we are higher than the moon. :)

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  9. Yep, we writers are a mixture of gloom and cheer. For us its acceptance and rejections in equal measure.

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    1. I wish I did get as many acceptances as rejections, Rachna! Maybe one day.

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  10. Oh definitely! But I think our mixture of gloom and cheer can be used to get those emotions on paper to the right level. At least I hope that's what it does to me lol

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    1. There's a thought. If we always felt the same then our writing probably wouldn't be so varied.

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  11. I think writing comes with a roller coaster of emotions. Our insecurities are bound to pop up but as long as we can overcome them, move on and keep writing; it's all good!

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    1. Overcoming them and moving on sounds like a sensible approach, Elsie.

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  12. I think we are all the same - emotions up and down like a bride's nightie.

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  13. I guess we are all like that. When the love is showing, we are happy and secure; when long periods of time come by without any shows of love we feel forgotten and insecure. Good thing is once you discover the pattern, you know good times will roll by eventually. Best of luck!

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    1. If there's a pattern it's a wild freestyle one, Georgina - but yes it helps to remember that tomorrow could see a change for the better.

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  14. I think a writer's life is full of highs and lows. Insecurity is just part of the job description unfortunately. But the ups when they come are amazing aren't they!?

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  15. I think all writers have their good days and their depressed days. Perseverance is mandatory to get anything done. Good Luck.

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  16. Unless we learn to appreciate the small successes, we might always be in search of an elusive star that is just out of reach.

    Mary Montague Sikes

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    1. I agree, Mary - it's important to celebrate everything that is at all positive.

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  17. Don't think it is fear about the writing process, just think it comes under the heading of fear in many areas of our lives, but we keep going. :0)

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  18. Patsy, I feel the same way.
    Rejections and acceptances create the tides of our confidence...

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    1. As long as they don't shipwreck us well be OK, Julia.

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  19. I do think we all suffer from insecurities--you put so much of yourself out there when you write--but those insecurities become weaker over time. I think it's partly through being rejected that you get stronger, actually. You eventually learn it's one person's opinion--of course it always hurts, but once you realize you're a writer, nothing anyone can say will stop it.

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    1. Rejections do hurt me much less than they used to, Stephanie and you're right that they're an opinion, not a reflection on everything we'll ever write.

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  20. I wholeheartedly believe that all of us creative types - artist, authors, painters, musicians, inventors - are bound by a rolling ocean of emotions. And the very best thing we can do about it is just continue creating, no matter what.

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